Want to be Happy? Give Up These…
July 14, 2016 by Cathy Brown
“Happiness is a direction, not a place.” ~ Sydney J Harris
Being happy is the ultimate goal in life. But one thing for certain is true happiness isn’t instant. It takes work and commitment and often times eliminating things from our life. So here are some things you might consider giving up, so you can be Happy, from the Abundance Project.
Give up Living Up to Others Expectations of you.
This is the first and most important step, so pay attention. Stop worrying about others. To be happy you need to own that it’s up to YOU to be happy. So that in turn means you can’t give credence to others expectations of your life.
Give up Excuses. Those who fail at being happy, are those who are willing to offer up excuses for their shortcomings. First, put in your mind “you won’t fail” and if you do…. embrace the failure. Don’t make excuses for why. Own it and then move on. One of the MOST COMMON attributes of rich, wealthy, happy, abundant people is their failures become their strength and motivation and ultimate learning tool.
Give up Criticism. While you are trying hard to look inward, let’s make this Universal. When you stop criticizing others, you will be nicer to yourself, and truly allow yourself to be happy. It is important to get out of your own way, so you can be happy. Your relationships will change for the better too. People are so open and a better version of themselves when they aren’t afraid of being criticized. You will start to see others in a better light, see their talents, see what wonderful people they are. And seeing the good in others will allow you to see the good in yourself
Give up Negative self -talk. Please be kind to yourself. Your own thoughts on YOU, are so important to your happiness. Even if you are not where or who you want to be, know you are trying, AND THAT IS ENOUGH. That is so Great! Just think about your kids, if they tried to do something, even if they couldn’t get it, you would still be SO proud of them. So this step is already inside you! Go practice it.
Give up Labels. “A Happy man is a rich man”. We all know plenty of rich people that are not happy. And that’s true for blanket statements across the board, you can always find holes in them. A label is a blanket statement. It’s like saying “all women are short”. We all hear that and go “Nope, I know a tall woman”. So lets’ just drop the rest of these labels that are nothing but ignorant. Happiness is a personal experience that cannot be labeled.
Give up the Past. This is hard. There are people and circumstances in your life that hurt you. I’m sorry. But the truth is we all have pain. That is part of the human experience. But you get to decide if you want to bring the pain with you, or give it up. Let it go. Because keeping it is the only way it gets to keep hurting you. Let’s stop hurting ourselves.
Give up Fear. Fear is lethal to your happiness. Because fear and faith cannot exist at the same place. You can have one or the other, never both. Have faith in yourself. Once you can have faith and believe in you, you can be happy. Because you won’t need to criticize, you won’t need labels, you won’t need limiting beliefs, none of these things will have any room in your life, if you can eliminate the fear and have faith in you, because YOU ARE GREAT.
Give up Limiting Beliefs. A limiting belief is a negative idea you have that shapes you. These ideas are sometime buried, and are the true destroyers of happiness and success. “I will be happy when…” No… you don’t need money, prestige, love, to be happy. You First choose to be happy and then those things find you.
True happiness takes work and commitment and often times eliminating things from our life. But it is truly worth the letting go.