Happiness Rules*… Part 2
October 1, 2015 by Cathy Brown
Last week we talked about the 1st three Happiness Rules:
1. Make peace with your past. So it won’t disturb your present.
2. What other people think of you is none of your business.
3. Time heals almost everything. Give it time.
4. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
Have you ever heard a friend say “When I get that promotion, or that boyfriend/girlfriend, or that new sports car, or lose those 20 pounds…THEN…I’ll be happy?” I bet you have even said it yourself a time or two, right? I know I have. Now I know how happiness works. It comes from the inside out – not the outside in – once you are feeling happy – then the good stuff comes – the promotions, relationships, etc. Setting your intention, sending out the intended thoughts and vibrations, allowing the Universe to bring them to you (the Law of Attraction) and feeling the essence (how it feels to already have your desire) all starts from the inside – from yourself, not anybody else. It is true what they say about happiness coming from within – not from anywhere or anybody else. Don’t give your power away by counting on somebody else for your happiness. If you do, what happens to your happiness when they are gone? You are totally in charge of your own happiness.
5. Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is about.
Comparing always gets you into trouble. Am I cuter, slimmer, smarter than (fill in the name)? I remember when my daughters were in 6th grade and we had to buy “Jordashe “jeans. Everyone had to have a horse head on their derriere. Remember those days? When you start to compare yourself to others, you have a tendency to judge others as well.
Another memory just came to me concerning judging others. When my youngest daughter was 12 and had braces, she was invited to a slumber party. As the parents dropped off their daughters, we were all laughing as they all had braces and went to the same dentist.
We were kidding that together we all probably paid for the Mercedes our dentist drove. We stopped laughing when the last girl arrived. She was from a large family (6 kids I think) that was having some hard times. The Dad was unemployed and the Mother was sick. This little girl had taken a magic marker and drawn braces onto her teeth so she would fit in and not be judged as poor. Her journey was far different from ours. She was a direct link to an important lesson. Do not compare. Do not judge.
“Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself” ~Alice Walker
I am totally in charge of my own happiness.
I do not compare or judge others.