Happiness Rules… Part 1
September 24, 2015 by Cathy Brown
I love to share special “things” I find along my journey. I was moved by John Assaraf’s “Happiness Rules” that I wanted to add my two cents. To me happiness is symbolized by butterflies, as they always make me smile and feel happy inside. John has 7 rules for happiness. This week we will cover the first 3 rules.
But first, a little bit about John Assaraf. John is a serial entrepreneur, brain researcher, and CEO of PraxisNow, a brain-research company that creates some of the most powerful evidence-based brain retraining tools and programs in the world. John’s passion is discovering and teaching people how to release the mental blockages that hold them back from achieving their fullest potential.
The Happiness Rules
1. Make peace with your past. So it won’t disturb your present.
This is often easier said than done, right? One thing that has helped me is the realization that my continued hurt of anger is only affecting me. The person the emotions are targeting doesn’t even know. Why keep hurting myself? If you can try to look at your past as a learning, and strengthening experience, making peace becomes more realistic. Your past experiences have made you who you are today…now it’s your choice…forever reliving the pain and suffering (hurting only yourself) or using your strength and courage to grow.
2. What other people think of you is none of your business
That sounds a bit harsh, but it is so true. Why do many of us care so much about what others think? By doing that we are giving away our power, our confidence, even our self esteem. What we think of ourselves is all that matters.
3. Time heals almost everything. Give it time.
Everyone grieves on their own schedule. We all handle loss differently, and that’s perfectly O.K. It makes sense that the deeper the grief or loss the longer the process takes. Cut yourself some slack. Give it time!
When my Mom transitioned last December at first I felt very mixed emotions…both grief and a sense of relief, for toward the end, she was not herself and it was excruciating to watch her go through the final stages of life.
Now, 10 months later, my feelings shift from peace that she is no longer in pain and that I will see her and Dad, along with all my dogs, when I join them. But, then once in awhile, something triggers me and I miss them terribly. As time passes, the peace is becoming more prominent and the grief is slowly being released. It just takes time for the wonderful memories to overcome the feelings of loss. Each day it gets a little better.
“Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.” ~Omar Khayyam
What I think of myself is all that matters.
Time heals…and I am healing and making peace with my past.