Do You Love Yourself?
February 15, 2018 by Cathy Brown
“To me, beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s about knowing and accepting who you are.”
I recently received a wonderful email from a former client, Linda, that made me realize how we perceive ourselves determines the life we create. Linda’s email described how plus-size model, Ashley Graham has been breaking barriers by appearing on the covers of national beauty magazines. And… she has signed a contract with Revlon. The cosmetics giant has never used a plus-sized model before. Way to go Ashley!
Why was Ashley the first? It may have been in part because of Ashley’s self-love and self-perception. Ashley’s affirmation is “I am bold, I am brilliant, I am beautiful.”
People say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. How do you see your true beauty? How do you perceive your body? Are you loving and accepting of yourself, accepting flaws and all or are you withholding your self-love until you change in some way? You know…maybe lose those 10, 20, 50 or 100, pounds? Change your “look”? Or change that…whatever?
Here’s a question for you…Men and Women alike…Is your life on “hold”, until you change your “outside/body”? Think about that for a moment.
There is absolutely nothing wrong if you desire to change or improve your body in some way. However, the negativity presents itself if you are making these changes because you don’t love and accept yourself as you are.
Many years ago, when I was working in radio sales, I had a close friend who the world would probably consider to be a big girl by today’s standards. She was beautiful, smart and had a crazy sense of humor, however, she did not see herself that way. All she could see was her weight. All her friends loved her, but she could not feel our love, as she could not feel her own self-love.
She was a yo-yo dieter, losing and gaining it all back. She finally went on a liquid diet, losing 75 pounds, thinking her life would magically change. Did it change? The only change was her dress size. Internally, she still felt “large”, she still did not see herself as beautiful as we all did. It was so sad. I wish I had the following exercise to share with her back then as it may have really helped.
If you would like to work on your self-love and acceptance, I recommend the following “Mirror Exercise” developed by one of my mentors, Lisa Nichols. Each day for 33 continuous days, look directly into a mirror and say 7 endings for each of the following 3 statements:
I am proud that you _____ (7 things)
I forgive you for _____ (7 things)
I commit to you that _____ (7 things)
Do not repeat any of the endings. That may be challenging not to repeat, but as you get into this exercise, you will dig deeper and deeper, finding new things to be proud of, forgive yourself for and commit to. Soon you will start to feel your self-value, and increase your acceptance, knowing you truly are beautiful and worthy of love.
Let’s all share model Ashley Graham’s affirmation… “I am bold, I am brilliant, and I am beautiful.”
“If you want to Soar in life, you must first learn to F.L.Y. (First Love Yourself)”. – Mark Sterling
I am bold, I am brilliant, I am beautiful.
I expand my vision of my self-love and acceptance.
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