Cultivating Confidence

May 11, 2017 by

“Self- confidence is the best outfit, rock it, and own it.” ~

Often what holds people back from being successful in life, is a lack of self-confidence. A lack of confidence and low self-esteem can contribute tosubconscious limitsthat can hold you back – and even keep you from seeing the opportunities that are right in front of you! But…

Is a lack of confidence something that you just have to live with?

One phrase I often hear is: “That’s just the way I am.

When perhaps they need be saying, “This is the way I choose to be… based on my fears, habits and limited beliefs.

Most people are very willing to ACCEPT a limitation upon themselves. They think that “It’s just the way I am” is a FACT… when it’s more of an excuse not to change.

Why in the world do we look for an excuse NOT to change? We are MEANT to change. We are changing beings. Our bodies and minds are literally changing all the time.

Think about it.

Are you the same person you were when you were five years old? No!

In those years, you have learned. You have grown. You have discovered and defined the behaviors and mindset that WORK for you – that are more aligned with who you want to be. You’re not even the same person you were a year ago. In fact, you are under no obligation to be the same person you thought you were YESTERDAY!

How do you get confidence if it isn’t already part of your identity?

The suggests that in the same way that plants grow better and healthier in fertile soil, you can shift your mindset and change your environment to one which encourages your confidence to grow stronger and healthier.

Here are four “shifts” that will lead to a bigger, bolder, more confident, better you!

1) Hold a Positive Self-Image. (This includes respecting yourself and your work)

Learn to look at the positive things about yourself andfocus on those rather than the negative. It doesn’t mean that you have to think that everything about you is perfect and that everything you do is fantastic… sometimes it means recognizing that something you did could have been handled better.

Recognize that if you can SEE better, you can DO better.

When you see something that could be better about yourself, what you are seeing is your POTENTIAL! If you see a lot of areas where you don’t measure up, you are seeing how AMAZING you could potentially be! Just don’t beat yourself up for not being there already.

Certainly, own up to your mistakes and to areas where you could improve, but hold even more tightly to the idea that you are pure potential, still “in development,” learning and growing with every experience.

2) Use the words “I am” Carefully and Consciously

Any time you say “I am” you are accepting (or revealing) a belief about yourself, so OWN that.

Don’t say anything after “I am” that you don’t want to accept as part of who you are as a person.

You are literally PROGRAMMING your own subconscious as to who you want to be.

And if you are looking for an affirmation, one of the most powerful affirmations you can use is, ‘I am able.”

• I am ableto double my income this year
• I am ableto learn
• I am ableto follow my passions
• I am ableto own a successful business

Take these 3 simple words (I am able) to heart in the morning and you’ll be surprised what you can accomplish each day.

3) Acknowledge forward momentum, no matter how small.

If you are moving forward, even if it is less than half a step forward, take a moment and celebrate that you aren’t moving backward. And that you aren’t standing still.

Sometimes we take leaps and bounds forward – but mostly our lives are made up of the little steps – our daily choices.

Think of it as like any other investment. Slow steady gains add up and before you know it, you are way ahead of the game.

Even physically, if you keep moving forward, a year from now you will be in a completely new place – no matter how small the steps. So, acknowledge that and celebrate it with EVERY move forward.

Because when you celebrate the small wins it invites the BIG WINS into your life!

4) You are co-creating

One of the strongest tools you have in your “confidence belt” is faith that it’s not you alone doing anything. Trust in the Universe.

There is a power stronger than yourself that moves through you. Partnering and Co-creating in all your endeavors. In reality, it doesn’t matter what you call it: The Universe, Destiny, God, Your Higher Self, The “Force” or your “unique and personal connection to the creative power of the cosmos.

Whatever you call it, that mental and emotional shift of feeling that you can turn something over to a higher power — and have action move THROUGH you — is an amazing confidence boost.

Suddenly, you aren’t fighting all the psychological blocks of thinking YOU can’t do something.

Suddenly you are ALLOWING something BIGGER than yourself to work through you.

And the confidence you were unable to show yourself alone, is suddenly there when you feel fearless. Because no matter how large the situation in front of you, it pales in comparison to what you have backing you up.

There you have it! Four very simple shifts in thinking.

But as simple as they are, they are incredibly POWERFUL! Let them sink in.

Read through them a few times and think about how you might implement one or two of these, or all four, into your life.

You truly deserve to be confident! There is no one else quite like you. You are a unique expression in this world.

Engage with the world and allow your unique-ness to be shared.

We’ll all be grateful you did.

“Confidence is like a muscle: the more you use it, the stronger it gets.” ~


Alignment – Momentum is my key to creating what I want in life

I take time each day to celebrate my successes, no matter how small

Imagine how you would feel if you knew you could create life however you wanted.

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