What is Your WHY
October 15, 2015 by Cathy Brown
Once in a great while there is a better way. That better way is your WHY!
How did your WHY start?
When you were a baby and you wanted milk, what did you do? Cry—exactly. And what happened? A caretaker brought you milk—and in that moment, an association was formed. Crying equals success.
And when you woke up in the middle of the night in your crib, scared and lonely, what did you do? Cry…right? And what happened? Someone came to comfort you and the association was strengthened: Crying equals success.
Can you see that for you as a baby, milk and safety represent life and death? The babies operate like this—I need something, I cry, I get it.
Can you see that this association runs far deeper than thinking? It is on a primitive level so profound that it establishes a programming that will literally operate for the rest of your life.
Do you think it’s important to know what it is? You bet. It looks like this.
Assuming that we have parents enlightened enough not buy into the Cry equals Success model for too long…when we have a want or a need, we try different things to get success.
It’s kind of hit or miss when we are very young until we reach that incident, that behavior that brings us success. Then we find that if we repeat that behavior we will continue to get success. Success can come in the form of reward, recognition or getting what you want, or alternatively through the avoidance of pain, punishment or disappointment—but in either case, that equals success.
Can you also see that once you figure that out, what that behavior is, you will repeat it over and over for the rest of your life—it becomes the programming that determines what you think, what you say and how you act—it’s your WHY—WHY you do everything that you do?
So …What is a WHY?
Your WHY is like a natural law…like the law of gravity or the law of attraction. Whether you know about these laws or not, they still affect you. If I hold a rock above my head, whether I know about gravity or not, whether I believe or understand gravity or not—if I open my hand, the rock is going to hit me in the head. On the other hand, if I know about the law of gravity, I can step aside and avoid the rock. We can use the law of gravity to benefit us every day and even use it to send a rocket to the moon.
The same goes for the law of attraction. If we are not aware of what thoughts and vibrations we are sending out…we may not get what we want. This happens whether you know about the law of attraction or not.
Your WHY is exactly like that. Whether you know your WHY or not, it still runs everything that you do. It’s like a filter through which you see the world and upon which you base every decision that you make.
Do you think it’s important to understand this filter? ABSOLUTLEY!
When you don’t know your WHY it’s like driving in the fog. It’s uncomfortable – you have to slow down – you don’t have much confidence in the direction you are going – you are nervous and you really don’t enjoy the ride.
When you discover your WHY – it’s like the fog is lifted and everything becomes crystal clear! You can see where you are, you can see what’s in front of you and where you’ve come from, you have confidence you are staying on the road and you can enjoy the ride and the surroundings!
Can you see how important it is to know your WHY?
More on “Discovering Your WHY” next week.
“Most people die in their early 20s. We simply wait until their 80s to bury them. I refer to them as sleepwalkers.”” ~Jim Rohn
I am going to discover my WHY.
I desire to get out of the fog and live in clarity.