Want Abundance? Start With Unconditional Giving
January 5, 2017 by Cathy Brown
“If you want love and abundance in your life – give it away.” ~ Mark Twain
Happy New Year everyone. I hope you all have a wonderful holiday season with your family and friends.
Last week I talked about writing down 3 priorities or goals for 2017. How many of you put down some form of Abundance (money, love, career, etc.)? I bet we all did in some shape or form, right? Today I would like to talk about gaining abundance by giving unconditionally.
Notice our 2 little guinea pigs each sharing or giving unconditionally to the other. I fell in love with this photo as my daughter Christine’s 2 guinea pigs (Gin-Gin and Lottie) just had 3 babies in October.
With the holidays just over, if I asked you to think about the last time you gave service to someone and expected nothing in return, either during the festive season or whenever…how long ago would that have been? Was it a few days ago, a few weeks ago, or a few years ago? How did you feel before, during, and after that experience? Is it something you think you need to do more often than you’re doing right now?
Though most of us rarely sit down and evaluate how great we are at unconditional giving, if you truly want to live an abundant and happy life, learning to give freely and expect nothing in return is absolutely essential. Normally when something is given, the recipient expects something in return. Even if it’s just a small thing, it’s human nature to expect others to “return the favor” so to speak. When that doesn’t happen, it can put a strain on the relationship.
Free Yourself Through Unconditional Giving
Even though your friends, your loved ones and complete strangers may expect you to give back when something is given to you, the choice is completely up to you. You may feel obligated to purchase a birthday present for a friend that bought you a present, or flag down another cab so someone else can get out of the rain, but in reality, you are the one that is capable of making that decision. I can tell you however, that making the decision to give freely of yourself is the only way to find true happiness and abundance in this life.
If you tell yourself that beginning today, and all through 2017 and beyond, you’re going to help everyone without expecting anything in return, what does it do to your mindset? Suddenly, instead of measuring how much you give against how much you might get in return, you break free of the chains and allow yourself to give without limits. You begin to understand the value of giving and how it can change lives. Once you arrive at that point you are more motivated to give because you see more than just people returning favors—you learn the value of true, selfless service.
Below explains the benefits of giving unconditionally, from an article by Kyle Hunt,
3 Consequences of Giving Freely
At the end of the day, I think nothing sums up what happens when you give freely better than the following three things:
#1: You’ll be Happier
Did you know that giving of your time and using your talents to help others makes you happier than doing it for your own benefit? Once you begin giving freely of your time, talents and resources, you’ll feel like you WANT to give instead of feeling like you HAVE to give.
#2: You’ll be Able to Focus on What Matters Most
When you opt for giving unconditionally, you begin to see how you can help the most people in the most efficient way. You’ll discover what you are really good at, and instead of spending time trying to help people with things you haven’t mastered on your own, you’ll be able to focus on areas that you know well and are important to you. This will have a more powerful effect on the ones you help, and it will also free up more time for you to enjoy the other important things in life.
#3: Others Will Have a Desire to Help You
Even though your motivation for giving isn’t focused on what you can get from others, as a natural result, the people around you will want to help you more in your life. Because you are serving on a regular basis you will understand firsthand how the power of service can change lives, so that will also make you less reluctant to accept help from others.