Happy Thanksgiving – What are you thankful for?
November 26, 2015 by Cathy Brown
“It’s not the happy people who are thankful. It’s the thankful people who are happy.” ~William Arthur Ward
Happy Turkey day. Even though Thanksgiving is an American holiday, I want to wish everyone a wonderful day of giving thanks and feeling gratitude for all that we have. As William Arthur Ward says…”Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it”. Let’s all give our gifts.
What are you thankful for? I am so grateful for my family (including the fur babies), my friends, my abundance and the incredible opportunity to help others through my life coaching and WHY discovery.
Since my “Power of Your WHY” teleseminar on 10/29, I have shared the WHY discovery process with many of you. I have to say “Thank You” for trusting me to guide you through your journey. I grow each time I share that journey with you.
I would like to share, with permission, an email I received from MaryNance following her WHY discovery.
Wow. I have never experienced anything quite like that before. Definitely life-changing. It was as if the distortions in my life just melted away and I was free to be me. Such a small thing to have such big results!
After watching the webinar I was fairly sure what my WHY would be, and I was surprised. I had characteristics of almost all of the WHY’s and so I didn’t jump to conclusions; I waited for the confirmation I received from our interview that I am indeed a #1 WHY – to contribute to a greater cause, make a difference, add value or make an impact.
The characteristics challenged a number of things I believed about myself and expected of myself. For me to be “successful” meant:
* I needed to be an “expert” * I needed to be a decision maker * I needed to have all the answers * I needed to be the leader, to be in charge * I needed all of the above to be acknowledged by others * to be a team player was to be less than I could/should be * I was part of the top tier of whatever activity/group I was involved with * I was popular and respected * I had power to make changes
I’m sure the list could have many additions.
As I read the characteristics, strengths, weaknesses and challenges of the #1 WHY, and realized how well they fit my life and my belief system and what I want from life, I could see why I had spent so much time and energy fighting with myself, procrastinating, self-sabotaging, feeling like a failure, and/or beating myself up. I had spent my life trying to be someone I am not in order to live up to the expectations of others that had become my own. No matter how much reassurance I got that I was OK and more than OK, I didn’t believe it. I could not believe in my own value because what I could see were my failures looming larger than my successes.
The lens I saw myself through was distorted by my unrealistic expectations. From the moment I entered into dialogue with the What Is Your WHY process that lens began to melt, and melt very quickly – and quietly! With the distortion gone, I could look back over my life and see everything very differently. And what I saw was that almost everything that I did, even though it seemed at the time that I was falling way short, was in perfect alignment with my WHY, and I hadn’t fallen short at all. I was right on the mark – MY mark.
I began to notice what I was noticing. A few months ago I joined a new Toastmasters Club and kept refusing to take any leadership roles. I felt I wasn’t pulling my weight, but I also knew I didn’t have the time or energy to do it. There are a number of functions in a Club that different members perform at each meeting, rather randomly. One is being an “Ah counter”, the person who counts the number of “fillers” each speaker uses when they are speaking publicly – um, and, uh, you know, etc… and then gives a little report at the end of the meeting. At last week’s meeting I was the Ah counter and when I gave my report I talked about the power of the pause and how important it is to allow the listener to hear and digest what the speaker says. I knew this from the many years I spent training lectors to read scripture at Mass in the Catholic Church. At the meeting this week there were a number of references to what I had said.
I realized I had done something that was perfectly in alignment with my Why – I had added value to the meeting and the group; I had made a difference. I didn’t have to be a “leader.”
As the distorted lens melted away, so did the weight of my perceived failures and inadequacies and I feel freer than I ever have in my life – free to be my authentic self. It was an amazing about face.
And I want to learn how to use the What Is Your WHY process! It is a powerful tool! “
Thank you MaryNance, for sharing your beautiful and enlightening story. I am truly grateful to you for trusting me.
P.S. Oh, by the way, my WHY is “to create relationships based on trust.”
“Saying thank you is more than good manners. It is good spirituality.” ~Alfred Painter
Each day I am thankful for my blessings.
I feel happy when I share my gratitude.
Knowing your WHY is like turning on the lights to your behavior. You gain instant clarity. You begin to understand why you made the choices you made. You know what your special gift is. Your world begins to make more sense.
Discover Your WHY…here: