December 4, 2014 by Cathy Brown
Allowing others to be who they are and to take their own journeys, without your interference or judgment is an important part of the Law of Allowing. You can see this is no easy task, as shown by the little man pulling his hair out in the photo.
Being the family “go to” person and fixer, I have struggled with this aspect of allowing most of my life. Never more than now as my 97 year old Mother has just entered Hospice.
Mom had been doing great for so many years, surviving my Dad who transitioned 2 years ago at age 92. Recently, heart problems, refusal to eat or drink, along with respiratory problems have put her into the hospital 3 times in the past 2 weeks with no improvement. Now is the time to love and allow Mom to take her journey home.
In allowing my Mom the freedom and support for that journey I’m learning the true meaning of allowing and accepting. It is really hard to not try to “fix” the situation choosing to accept “what is”.
Sitting with my Mom, talking some, but mainly just watching her sleep brings back so many wonderful memories that I have not thought about in years. The times we spent walking to the bus as a kindergartener; Mom’s leadership of my Brownie and Girl Scout troop; spending overnights at my house when my girls were little; her unconditional love and support. Mom has always been my greatest Cheerleader!
Now I have the opportunity to be her Greatest Cheerleader and allow her to be with Dad in love and light. I can help her complete her journey, by not resisting, but by allowing her to do it her way. I am totally focusing on that. Thank you for listening.
“Through allowing, you become what you are; vast, spacious. You become whole. You are not a fragment anymore, which is how the ego perceived itself. Your true nature emerges, which is one with the nature of God.” ~Eckhart Tolle
I allow others to be who they truly are
I allow myself to be who I truly am